Grief Tip

USE THE NAME OF THE PERSON WHO DIED • When you're talking about the death or about your life in general, don't avoid using the name of the person who died. Using the name lets others know they can use it, too. • Acknowledge the significance of the death by talking about the person who died: "I remember when David...", "I was thinking of Sarah today because..." • Encourage your friends and family to use the name of the person who died, too.

Mourners often love to hear that special name.

This is such a misunderstood concept. It works for some, but causes more suffering for others.

The best thing you can do as a mourner is let people know what works for you by leading by example.

In support of someone grieving, ask. That's the best thing you can do. Once you know their preference, honor it.

This post is extra special today as it is in remembrance of a soul I barely knew in this lifetime on her heavenly birthday. Happy birthday Aunt Debby.

I'd love to hear some stories about her if anyone is willing to share.

“Healing Your Holiday Grief” by Dr. Alan Wolfelt