Collective Grieving

In case you haven't made the correlation...We are in a HUGE state of collective grief. Have been for months already, quite frankly for generations upon generations. Hidden, disguised, buried, ignored trauma and grief. (We have lost actual lives, lost our selves, our sense of safety, some have lost purpose, we have lost jobs, security, we have lost our patience, some have even lost HOPE-among many other things)

Here are some very simple reminders to meet anyone and everyone you come across with...(credit to David Kessler at grief.com)

The Best Things to Say to Someone in Grief 1. I am so sorry for your loss. 2. I wish I had the right words (or knew what to do), just know I care. 3. I don’t know how you feel, but I am here to help in any way I can. 4. You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers. 5. My favorite memory of __________ is… 6. I am always just a phone call away 7. Give a hug (YES!!! A HUG!!!) instead of saying something 8. We all need help at times like this, I am here for you 9. I am usually up early or late, if you need anything 10. Saying nothing, just be with the person

The Worst Things to Say to Someone in Grief 1. At least he/she lived a long life, many people die young 2. He/she is in a better place 3. He/she brought this on herself 4. There is a reason for everything 5. Aren’t you over it yet, it has been awhile now 6. You can have another _________ still 7. He/she was such a good person God wanted her to be with him 8. I know how you feel (This is a BIG ONE!!!! Each experience is unique to the individual-no comparisons) 9. He/she did what she came here to do and it was time to go 10. Be strong (or peaceful, respectful, or any other adjective that DOESN'T suit the situation-process those emotions!)